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Credentials

• Doctorate

Consenting Adults Quotes:

• You are not an attachment style.

• I Love You Today.

• Trauma is not an excuse to be an asshole

Endorsements

“Modern relationships are colliding with outdated rules—and most of us are left guessing. Consenting Adults cuts through the confusion with hard-won, real-world, experience-tested wisdom. This is the playbook we’ve been waiting for.”

Harry T. Reis, PhD, author of How to Feel Loved and Dean’s Professor at the University of Rochester 

“In Consenting Adults, Dr. Gadomski examines the limitations of conventional relationship paradigms and explores how assumptions about intimacy and commitment can shape therapeutic and relational approaches. Offering an adaptive, non-prescriptive framework, the book invites reflection on integrity, consent, accountability, and repair within unconventional relationships. Grounded in clinical experience and attentive to cultural context, it contributes a thoughtful perspective to ongoing conversations about relational ethics and care across diverse partnership structures.” 

Sara Nasserzadeh, PhD, author of Love by Design

“Dr. Gadomski offers a powerful framework for understanding integrity and fragility as dynamic forces coexisting in all human bonds. Drawing from clinical insight, developmental theory, and rich narrative examples, she illuminates how heteronormative and monogamy-centered conditioning shapes our expectations—and how relationships can flourish when partners engage with accountability, curiosity, and emotional literacy. Essential reading for therapists and anyone committed to loving with honesty and courage.”

Martha Kauppi, LMFT, CST-S, author of Polyamory, A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients)

“Consenting Adults is a trailblazing and illuminating book for anyone in a relationship, particularly an unconventional one, who wants to examine and deconstruct the implicit, and frequently internalized, mono/heteronormative assumptions that can lead to dissonance and fragility and reconstruct a relational ecosystem based on authenticity and integrity.”

Ian Kerner, sex therapist and New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First

“Consenting Adults is a thoughtful and necessary reframe of how we understand relationships beyond rigid structures and outdated norms. Dr. Gadomski moves the conversation away from “what kind of relationship is right” and toward “how do we show up with integrity inside any relationship we choose.” This is exactly the shift clinicians and clients alike need. Her emphasis on accountability, alignment, and relational responsibility offers a grounded, non-moralizing framework that honors both individuality and connection. A valuable contribution for anyone navigating modern intimacy—especially those who don’t fit neatly into conventional boxes.”

Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, author of Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi

“Consenting Adults is a thoughtful and timely exploration of modern relationships that challenges and offers grounded alternatives to rigid scripts and narrow norms. Dr. Gadomski shares a practical mix of clinical insight, case studies, and lived experience to provide readers with flexible frameworks for building relational integrity and resilience. A meaningful, compassionate, and nuanced contribution to contemporary relationship discourse, Consenting Adults challenges readers and is relevant to both clinicians and practitioners as well as anyone navigating relational growth with curiosity.”

Jess O’Reilly, PhD, MSc, HappierCouples.com

“This book is so timely, especially in an era where conservative relationship values are being promoted and all other ways of relating are facing more sociopolitical sanctions than ever. When it becomes difficult to sort through the noise of what other people consider to be a good relationship dynamic to determine what would be good for you, Consenting Adults provides a way of thinking it through. Its gift is that it doesn’t answer the question on your behalf. It provides a framework for you to decide for yourself, consensually, with your partner(s). And that framework is anchored by the idea that relationships are not figments of our fantasy—they have to be lived in integrity, practiced daily, allowing for fluidity and evolution. It’s a must-read.”

Candice Nicole Hargons, PhD, author of Good Sex

“Consenting Adults is a thoughtful and deeply needed reimagining of relationships that challenges inherited assumptions about love, commitment, and success. Dr. Gadomski guides us in and through a nuanced and vital conversation at the intersection of intimacy, autonomy, and human connection.”

Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, adjunct professor at Northwestern University, MasterClass instructor, and best-selling author of Love Every Day

“Consenting Adults is not a how-to manual for relational health; it is a reframing of what relational health even means, a careful deconstruction of the colonial, patriarchal, and heteronormative scaffolding that has quietly governed our assumptions about love. By centering integrity, the alignment of word and action, and the willingness to repair over romance, longevity, or the myth of the one person who completes us, this book offers a framework as useful to monogamous couples as to those in kink, polyamorous, or fluid partnerships. As an educator committed to equity and inclusion, I found it genuinely inclusive, never performatively so. This is an essential, paradigm-shifting work. I will recommend it to clinicians, students, leaders, and anyone serious about building relationships of substance.”

Christopher N. Smith, PhD, civil servant, professor, and author